{"id":59,"date":"2024-05-24T16:25:22","date_gmt":"2024-05-24T16:25:22","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/beckyhurley.com\/?p=59"},"modified":"2024-05-24T16:25:23","modified_gmt":"2024-05-24T16:25:23","slug":"embracing-forgiveness-and-building-your-legacy","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/beckyhurley.com\/?p=59","title":{"rendered":"Embracing Forgiveness and Building your Legacy"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed is-type-video is-provider-youtube wp-block-embed-youtube wp-embed-aspect-16-9 wp-has-aspect-ratio\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\n<iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"Building Dreams Ep 11 The Moment I Decided to Break the Cycle\" width=\"960\" height=\"540\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/RrqrbTl5lp0?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe>\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">The Year and a Half Pause<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">There was a year and a half pause between when I thought my book was done and when I was actually done. My book has definitely been a God mission of the messages that I am meant to bring forward and share with you. I actually had to live them out while I was writing the book. And so, the story I&#8217;m going to share with you today is a story on healing and forgiveness.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Vulnerable Stories and Sneak Peeks<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">I am doing a series of sharing vulnerable stories and things that are emotional for me, stories you will hear in my book and get to read. I want to share them with you today as an early sneak peek of what the book has to offer. This story is particularly significant as I am sharing it this month in May, marking the one-year anniversary of when it happened.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">A Chapter That Wasn&#8217;t Ready<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">When I first wrote this book, I had a chapter that wasn&#8217;t quite ready to be written because I had not lived it yet. The year and a half pause between when I thought the book was done and when I was actually done was necessary to include this chapter. My book has definitely been a God mission of the messages that I am meant to bring forward and share with you. I had to live them out while writing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">The Hardest Thing I Had Ever Done<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">As I was writing this book, I shared about the tension I grew up with and the ties I had to cut in my family. The boundaries I had to set. I basically cut ties with my whole family, especially my dad, for many years. It was one of the hardest things I had ever done in my entire life. It was so hard because we were so close, and I know it&#8217;s wild to think about cutting ties with someone you&#8217;re so close with.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">The level of closeness was related to the level of disappointment when he would not change his ways. I wanted him so badly to change. I wanted him to see the light, to break out of the anger, rage, and aggression he would show. But I learned you cannot heal for people when they are not ready to heal for themselves. You cannot change people when they are not ready to change.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Raising My Children Without Their Grandpa<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Cutting ties with someone I loved deeply was not fun. Raising my children to not know who their grandpa was, also not fun. Seeing happy families together on holidays was hard when I knew I did not have that. I had to stand my ground and maintain my separation. During that time, I grew my family and my business. I needed that level of separation to become my own person and pursue my dreams.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Realizing My Life Goal<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Last year, in the first quarter, we moved $8 million worth of real estate. Among the dreams realized was purchasing 320 acres of farmland, connecting to the 13 acres we already owned. Achieving this life goal brought me a strong sense of peace. Part of the tumultuous relationship with my dad revolved around the desire to inherit my family farm. He used that inheritance as a manipulation tactic.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">When I cut ties with him seven years earlier, I decided I needed to figure it out on my own. I had to achieve my dream independently. Seven years later, it was realized. A month after achieving this, I felt it was time to reconnect with my dad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Reconnecting with My Dad<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">I had a call with my coach who reminded me that reconciliation and forgiveness are godly acts. I decided to meet my dad where he was, accepting him as he is, because I am happy with who I am. I called him, and he answered on the first ring, after seven years of no contact. We decided to meet the next night at Culver\u2019s, a local burger and ice cream chain.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">When we arrived, he had a horse and wagon in the parking lot, giving rides to daycare kids. My children were excited and hopped in the wagon, meeting their grandpa in this delightful way. We had a neutral conversation, catching up over the last seven years, and it was not awkward attending family events afterward.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Full Circle Healing<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Meeting with my dad brought me a sense of peace and allowed me to release years of anger, bitterness, and resentment. Full circle healing happens when you let go of these negative emotions. I reached a place where I had no more expectations of what I needed from him. I had grieved the person I wanted him to be and released those expectations.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Encouraging Others to Heal<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">If you have gone through a similar situation, I encourage you to reach out three times. Write letters, extend communication, and if they do not respond, release it to God knowing you tried. For me, meeting my dad was a full circle healing experience, letting go of expectations and finding peace.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Thank you for listening to my story. I hope it inspires you. If you would like to share your story or need suggestions on reconnecting with someone, please reach out. I would love to connect with you.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>The Year and a Half Pause There was a year and a half pause between when I thought my book was done and when I was actually done. 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